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Celebrating Mother's Day with Compassion and Support

Tisha with her boys at Galveston Beach 2012

Hey there, Mamas! Mother's Day is just around the corner, and it's an occasion that can evoke a mix of emotions for many of us. While it's a beautiful day to celebrate the joys of motherhood, it's also essential to remember those who may find this day difficult due for various reasons.

For some women, Mother's Day can be a painful reminder of fertility struggles. It's a deeply personal and often challenging journey that some go through in their quest to become mothers. If you know someone who is experiencing fertility issues, take a moment to acknowledge their strength and resilience. Offer a listening ear, show empathy, and let them know that you are there to support them. Sometimes, simply being present and acknowledging their feelings can make a world of difference.

I went through fertility treatments for three years before Ace & Ike were conceived via IVF.  Mother's Day was so painful during those years.  I was embarrassed that I was jealous of my friends that were celebrating Mother's Day with their babies and young children.  I usually spent the day at home in my pajamas instead of celebrating the day with my own Mom. When a sweet friend would reach out and acknowledge my pain with a kind text, it meant everything to me.  It validated my deep sadness and made me feel less alone. 

Strained relationships with mothers can also make Mother's Day a complex time. Not all mother-daughter or mother-son relationships are picture-perfect, and that's okay. If you have a friend who has a difficult relationship with their mother, be sensitive and understanding. Provide a safe space for them to express their emotions and be a comforting presence. Encourage them to seek professional help if needed, as therapy can be instrumental in navigating and healing strained family dynamics.

Losing a mother or a child can cast a shadow over Mother's Day. For those who have lost their mothers, this day can bring a profound sense of grief and longing. Similarly, parents who have experienced the loss of a child may feel an overwhelming void in their hearts that deepens on days like Mother's Day. Reach out to these individuals with compassion and love. Let them know that you remember and honor their loved ones. Share stories, memories, or even just a heartfelt message to remind them that their role as a mother is eternal, and their love continues to be cherished.

It's crucial to celebrate the joys of motherhood, but it's equally important to support those who may be hurting on this day. A simple gesture like sending a thoughtful card, a heartfelt message, or inviting them for a distraction-free coffee date can mean the world. Offer your understanding and lend a compassionate ear. Sometimes, all it takes is showing up and letting them know they're not alone.

Now, let's take a moment to celebrate the incredible experience of being a mother! Motherhood is an awe-inspiring journey filled with joy, love, and countless memories. From the sleepless nights to the first steps and beyond, it's a rollercoaster ride of emotions that shapes us as individuals. As friends, let's uplift and honor the mothers in our lives. Send them tokens of appreciation, plan a special outing, or simply spend quality time together. Acknowledge their strength, resilience, and the immense love they pour into their families.

Remember, Mother's Day can be a beautiful celebration for many, but it can also be a day of sensitivity and heartache for others. Let's be mindful of the struggles and challenges faced by women around us and provide the support they may need. Together, we can make Mother's Day a day of inclusivity, understanding, and compassion.

-Tisha, Founder of Ace & Ike